I have a friend who sends out an annual epistle for the beginning of each year. I’ve never been one to do that, but this year, I thought 2012 deserved a little bit of attention.
Books and Blogs
2012 was a pretty good year.
Most importantly for me, I became an author with the publication of my novel, Baby! Baby? Baby!? I also jumped into the world of social media and started not one, but two blogs.
I began my Bethany Blog – Observations of a Small Town to help promote my husband’s development in the Village of Bethany. Originally being from a small-town myself, I think Bethany has a lot of offer and wanted to give it some much deserved attention.
I had a similar reason for creating my own website and subsequent blog – to promote Holly Kerr, author, and help get my novel out there. Doing that, I’ve learned so much about social media and there is still more out there that I haven’t got a clue about. I’m looking forward to learning more.
2012 also saw the ending of some relationships and the renewal of others, not to mention the beginning of a few. Friends and family have an important place in my life, so beginnings, endings and renewals always have a big impact on me.
The Big 4-0
My husband turned 40 this year and by the time I post this, I will have reached the big milestone as well. I’m okay with being 40. At least I think I am. Or I will be. Publishing the book was a big thing for me, something I wanted to do for a while so to have accomplished that, as well as have created a happy and healthy marriage and family by the time I was 40 is something I can be proud of.
But there’s more I want to do! Turning 40 is nothing more than a new chapter in my life, one I am ready and willing to embrace. Maybe not that willing – I still prefer to say I’m still in my 30s! But it’s a new chapter, one that is coming up whether I want it to or not.
I haven’t made New Year resolutions in a while, mainly because I never kept them. But I’ve been following a blog lately, Bucket List Publications. She has this cool list of things she’s done and wants to do, so I thought I’d make one too.
Mine won’t be as extensive or rely on me developing some globe-hopping ways, but I came up with five things that I feel are important for me to do. I’d consider 2013 a success if I accomplished these.
Five Things I Want to Do This Year
Finish writing my next book.
Publishing my book was a proud moment for me. The first, very rough draft of my (hopefully) next book, Coming Home, is finished, thanks to NaNoWriMo. So it’s safe to say, I should be able to get it ready for publication before too long. I’d like to say it would be ready for the spring. More than I’d like to – I’m going to say it will be ready by April 1 for me to take it to the next step, and it has to be edited by then as well. I think that’s a realistic goal. The question is also, do I give the traditional publishing world another shot at me, or self-publish again?
Get rid of that 10 pounds that won’t budge!
I came up with this one during boxing class, when I was staring at myself in the mirror and trying not to laugh at my hopeless attempts to skip. I’m really very uncoordinated. Losing weight shouldn’t be a problem for me because I really like to exercise. I’m strong and healthy. I ran in my first 10km race and hope to do a longer race in 2013. I like to think I’m in good shape, but there are these wobbly bits in certain areas that just won’t go away! And I know I shouldn’t rely on the scale to tell me I look good, and I don’t, but every time I step on the darn thing, I don’t get the numbers I want!
So that’s my goal – lose those 10 pounds. And I’ll even go so far to say my goal is to see a constant 130 when I step on the scale. I’d like to drop to 125, but we’ll see how the first ten go. All I have to do is cut back on the wine, cheese, chips and pasta, which unfortunately are my favourite things to cook as well. I guess I’ve never made chips, which is a really good thing because I’d have to bump up the numbers a little, and thank goodness I don’t make my own wine. I should be able to do this – a little more exercise and a little better eating. I’ll give myself a deadline of May 1 – just in time for shorts!
Go on a trip with my husband.
I say this as I pack for myself and three kids for a trip to Florida. Family vacations are fun and because of Jeff’s work schedule we don’t go on as many as we would like. And Jeff and I go on trips even less; I think we went to Vancouver for a wedding when the kids were babies, before our youngest was even born. She’s 6 now. So…it’s been a while. I’ve been on vacation three times myself, which was great but I think the hubby and I need some time on our own.
Work on my Relationship with my kids.
Don’t get me wrong, I have a great relationship with all three of my kids. But as they grow older, I’d like to see them becoming a little more independent. A little more self-sufficient. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for eleven years now, and it’s been great and I wouldn’t change a thing, but things are changing. Since my book came out, I call myself a writer, mainly to justify to the kids that I’m working when I’m at the computer. They are kids, and it’s only been a few months, but I don’t think they’re quite getting it. I’ll keep trying.
We talk a lot about respect in our family – respecting yourself, each other and others in your life. This includes me, as well. What I need to reinforce to my kids, is that even though I’ve been around all the time, and will continue to be, they shouldn’t take me for granted. Every stay-at-home mom can relate. It’s easier to do things for them – quicker too. But they have to learn; whether it’s making their lunches, learning how to work the DVD player or putting away their clothes. Simple things, and some not so simple, like learning to respect me when I’m working. I may be sitting in the living room, because that’s where my computer is, but if my head is in my book or if I’m in the middle of a blog post, it’s hard to answer twenty questions about snacks and what we’re doing that day. Let me finish what I’m doing and I’ll be glad to help with whatever you need. That’s not too much to ask, is it?
Take the time to do the things I love to do.
This should be a given for everyone.
When I make the time to do what I love to do – whether it’s spending time with my kids, volunteering at their school, spending time with friends, reading, writing, watching movies, or playing in my garden – it makes me happy. I then, find it easier to make other people happy. I’m not proposing I spend all my time doing what I want. Like the rest of the population, I have responsibilities. I have things I need to get finished or chaos will result. And sometimes it’s really hard to do, and sometimes things get sacrificed. But once in a while, wouldn’t it be nice to spend an hour doing something you love to do?
So that’s what I want to accomplish in 2013. That, and stop caring what people think. Wish me luck and good luck on your own resolutions if you have them!!!
Wishing all of you a Very Happy 2013!!